10 Things That Make People Fight — And How to Win With Self-Control
10 Things That Make People Fight — And How to Win With Self-Control Why do people fight? Most fights don’t start “out of the blue.” They happen when something precious—our pride, our family, our money, or our beliefs—feels threatened. By recognizing the common triggers of anger, we can learn to pause, practice self-control, and avoid destructive outcomes. The Bible doesn’t shy away from these struggles—it shows us both the dangers of uncontrolled anger and the power of self-control. 1. Disrespect or Insults Words cut deep. Public humiliation often leads to conflict. Nabal insulted David’s men, and David prepared for revenge until Abigail’s wisdom cooled his anger (1 Samuel 25). “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1) 2. Jealousy and Rivalry Romantic jealousy or envy of others often sparks violence. Cain killed Abel when God accepted Abel’s offering and not his (Genesis 4:3–8). “For where envy and self-seeking exist, confus...